There’s a Reason You’re Here because you are meant for more.

You know you’re meant for more – more freedom, more truth, more you.

Guest in this episode Lydia Kimmerling is a seasoned speaker on TV shows, TEDx speaker, host of Closer to Source Podcast. She is a healing Catalyst, Spiritual Channel, and Master Life Coach who helps you uncover the hidden blocks behind emotional, physical and spiritual pain. 

Things we talked about: 

• Why do people feel stuck?
• First step to getting unstuck
• The key to feeling truly fulfilled
• What’s the most powerful energy for manifesting more in life?
• How can someone learn how to surrender?
• What is channelling?
• Why is inner wealth and inner success so important?
• How can you trust yourself more?
• and so much more

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Hello, hello, beautiful souls. There’s a reason you are here. You know you’re meant for more, more freedom, more truth, more you.

And this is the exact reason I have my special guest today, Lydia Kimmerling. She is a seasoned speaker on TV shows, TEDx speaker, host of closer to source podcasts. She is an amazing healing catalyst, spiritual channel, master life coach, who helps you uncover the hidden blocks behind emotional, physical, and spiritual pain.

Welcome to the show, Lydia. 

Thank you. Thank you so much for having me.

I absolutely love helping people get unstuck because you can’t open new doors for more when you’re stuck in the life now. And I know that is also your work. So let’s start there.

Why do you think so many people feel stuck in life?

Okay, there’s two angles we can come for this. It’s because number one, they don’t know how to change things. So we just settle.

But then there’s a much deeper thing going on. And most of us are really stuck with energy blocks, which it’s karma, it’s emotions that are holding us back from really seeing the truth and knowing the truth of our divinity and who we are and how we can live. And when that’s playing out, you are happy to settle, or at least you convince yourself that you’re happy to settle for living in pain, whether it’s emotional, spiritual, or physical.

But as those blocks start to lift, and whether that’s could be lack of confidence, lack of courage, lack of self belief, lack of self love, comparison, and anything that can really keep us stuck, then you start to really see the truth and see where you’ve been lying to yourself.

Yeah, obviously, I’m a coach. So I love helping people get unstuck because we can help them expedite the process, right? For you, in your opinion, what’s the first step to getting unstuck?

First and foremost, I think we have to be comfortable with saying what we want. And, and that doesn’t have to necessarily be something grand. My work’s changed a lot over the 15 years I’ve been doing this.

When I first started out, it would have been about getting people to admit that they want more and what that and get, you know, creating this big vision about what it is that they want. Now, I work much more deeply and much more quickly. And the first step for me is really getting them to connect to their heart.

If I can get somebody rapidly out of the head and into the heart, then everything unpacks itself very quickly.

I like that: out of your head and into your heart. So tell me more about that.

Well, we are kind of trained to let the head lead. And that comes from school, society, and it’s really about who are you going to be in the mirror of everybody else? So the expectations of your parents and society very rarely have, are we taught how to be self-critical to understand what it is that we really want for ourselves.

And that means then that the ego leads everything and the ego believes in separation. So the ego operates from lack, which means it’s always going to be making its decisions based on validation of others, the judgment of others, and not from the place of knowing that you are already divinely perfect, whole and loved. It was never meant to lead though.

It’s not to say the mind is bad, but it’s not that the mind of the head doesn’t have a place. It does. It’s the machinery that we’ve been given to navigate this human experience, but the heart is the leader and the head is the support act.

So once you get into the heart, which is really where you can hear God’s voice, you can really allow your soul to lead. You’re create space for the head to go, Oh my goodness. I knew something wasn’t right.

I know I wasn’t actually doing the right job, but it’s difficult because the head and the heart communicate very differently. The heart doesn’t really care so much what other people think. And it’s usually going to ask you to act courageously.

It won’t always make sense. It’s going to go against a lot of the structure in which you’ve built your security around, because it’s not operating through disconnection. It’s not operating through separation.

It knows the truth and it knows the illusions of this reality.

The end. Just as you were speaking, I just feel like I have to pull up one of your recent posts on Instagram, because I really loved what you posted. It it’s five signs.

You’re not living your full potential. And I’m going to read out loud right now. Number one, you feel like you’re constantly searching, but never quite finding.

Number two, you’ve ticked the boxes in life, but still feel a quiet emptiness inside. Number three, you bounce between motivation and burnout, never fully landing in peace. Number four, you know what you should do, but something keeps stopping you.

And number five, you feel a deep inner knowing that there’s more, but can’t not access it. And I felt like what you said earlier really resonated with this post, because if you’re just, we want more, but if you’re just thinking with your head and going, with the latest trend, with what this girl says, or with whatever shiny object syndrome that you’ve caught along the way, and not really, like you talked about going deeper into your inner self, going to your heart, all these things will happen in life and they will block you from where you want to go and then they will hold you back.

Yeah, they will. And so many, I would kind say so many people are sleepwalking and that’s everything we’ve listed there is what that sleepwalking feels like, but you’re not normally aware of it when you’re in it because you’re settling and because you haven’t remembered your worth yet. And it’s only through kind of waking up and that awakening experience, which might feel like a massive insight or your heart bursting open, or you’ve gone through something really painful and it’s the pain that’s triggered this awakening, that you can admit that to yourself.

Like, yeah, I’ve been abandoning myself. I’ve been cheating myself. I’ve been lying to myself.

I am not fulfilled. I’m not happy. But sometimes it’s easier to not admit that to yourself because then you’ve got to do something about it.

And my friends and I, we joke sometimes, those of us who are on this awakening path of like, oh, do you remember when we were naive and we were still asleep and we were drinking loads and just like having a good time? And yeah, we were also in a lot of pain, but it was quite nice when you couldn’t see everything about yourself, but you can feel it. It’s showing up, but it just shows up.

It shows up in those ways of the negative behavior patterns and the ways in which we distract ourselves, right? Yeah.

And this is all about successful women, right? You’re doing well in life. And I felt like those five signs, that was totally me in my twenties, right?

I checked the boxes. People think I’m successful, but I wasn’t fulfilled. So what’s the key to feeling truly fulfilled for you, Lydia?

In my life and the journey that I’ve been on, really the key to being fulfilled is your connection to God. But I know that that isn’t an answer that can be understood well for people. I need to take it outside of religion.

I’m not a religious person, but the deeper you go, the more you search, the more you get to know yourself, the more connected you become to yourself and there becomes a deep connection to all and all that is in the cosmic energy, the fabric that weaves everything together. And you remember that there was never anything missing in the first place. So it’s not so much about finding yourself or finding fulfillment.

It’s there. It’s about lifting off everything that isn’t real and true to just reconnect to it.

I love that. But I do want to point out, we are talking about more in life, not in terms of the you hustle more, right? It’s a more powerful energy that we want to manifest more in life while having fun, while feeling aligned, while feeling fulfilled.

That’s what we want. So what’s the most powerful energy for you, Lydia, to manifest more in life?

The most powerful energy for manifesting is love, because love is the creator energy. It’s love and power. So we’ve got Shiva and Shakti, right?

So when you do the work to heal, you empower yourself. So now you’ve got the power and now you’re also reconnecting to self, which is connecting to source, to God. So you have the love.

And through those two energies, reawakened and balanced, then love everything. You love things into fruition, into reality, into manifest. So I think the way we see that so obviously is when we want to create life.

Normally, a baby is created through love. And that’s the biggest manifestation we can create as human beings is life. And so that helps to understand the power of love and manifesting.

Love where you’re at right now doesn’t mean you have to like it. But if you hate your job or your business feels like it’s stuck, or you don’t feel like you’re successful enough yet, you really need to come into the present and see what you can love to bring forward more of what you want more quickly.

I love that answer. Actually, as a matter of fact, in each of my coaching sessions, I always, always say a prayer with my client. And whether you believe in God, or the higher power, or if you’re not religious, we can pray to love because we all have the ability to love.

And when we truly believe in love, that truly has the power. So I’m really glad that was your answer, because I cannot agree more.

Yeah.

Well, I believe in order to receive more, though, we have to first let go and surrender and shed. Would you agree with that?

100% surrender. So you’ve got the love and power, which are the two strongest energies within us that will fulfill and create and that is source. And then connecting to them, the kind of the keys, I’d say are faith and surrender, which is still God that is source, but that’s the piece that we have to do.

You have to be willing to get out of the way to allow the love and the power to work through you, and for you, and because of you. So surrender and faith. And I think once you’re on this path, you’re just on a constant journey of surrender and faith, surrender more, faith more, surrender more, faith more.

But then, yeah, I love it. One exercise I used to do is to write each year, like write down what I want to let go of for that year and burn it in a bucket. I’ve done that at retreats, and I’ve loved it.

How can someone learn how to surrender, right? You’re we’re talking about it. Okay, let go surrender.

But if someone who’s having trouble with that, what exercise would you recommend them to actually do?

Maybe if I just tell a little bit of my own experience, because it is one of those things that doesn’t feel tangible. And I’m not sure that there is a step by step like this is what you do. I think you need to pay attention.

And God works in a way where it’s going to grind you down until you surrender. So if right now, first of all, number one, if you’re listening to this, you’re on the path, your soul has called you here to receive this information and whatever’s going to land for you today. So second of all, that means God’s working in your life.

I mean, it always is, but now pay attention. And if you feel stuck, if you feel like it’s like you just keep not getting what you want, there isn’t that fulfilled, light, joyful feeling. Listen, why?

Why are you not getting what you want? It’s because divine wants you to see something that you have not yet been seeing. And it’s needing to grind you down.

And actually, what it’s doing is also grinding out karma, the energy that needs to leave from your system in this discomfort. And so stop, be still, look at where life is busy and start to be in communication. So I thought I had surrendered quite a few times, but I realized I was surrendering.

And then sort of inwardly saying, look at me, I’m surrendering. What do I get now? But you can’t really do it to get something.

You do it to get out of the way. And so the time that I feel that I really did that was in 2020, end of 2022, down the back of my guard and on my knees. And without any attachment to what this was going to bring me, it was really because there was nothing left for me to do.

I realized I had exhausted all ways in which I thought I could fix things. And I said to God, you can take everything that I know to be true about myself. I just want to know what my true purpose is.

And energetically, you just feel it. You know when you are being truthful with that handing over of the responsibility of life.

Thank you for sharing. And I know much of your work also has to do with channeling. And in case someone who is not familiar with that, what is channeling?

Well, my experience of channeling has been that I went through an ascension. It was pretty full on, and I had around 100 initiations, activations with spirit. Also, I was just at home on my own, sober.

It wasn’t like a medicine initiation or anything that completely reset my nervous system. And what I understood was happening was I was being reset so that I could hold higher frequencies of light. And that makes me feel like it was kind of like an upgrade in a radio.

So before that, it was like a mid-range radio. I was pretty in tune to energy, but only within a certain range. And then my whole system was reset in a way that I was told that I can connect to everything because I am everything.

And I have that lived experience of really knowing that I’m everything. So like a very, very high-tech, top-of-the-range radio, I’m not just tuning into what my five senses, five or six, five, six, experience. I’m tuning in beyond the 3D and receive wisdom that has the highest energetic and highest spiritual perspective.

So for someone who’s going like, oh, I have no idea how that feels like, that’s not me. But what I want to get across is that we all have that inner wisdom within us. Even if you’re not talking to spirits, even you’re saying this is too woo-woo for me, but you still have that inner knowing.

You do have that inner wisdom, right? Lydia, how would you guide someone to say you have that wisdom and how can we use that wisdom?

So when we don’t believe that we have that wisdom or we’re struggling to hear it, it’s a journey around learning to trust yourself. So when the trusting of yourself isn’t there, it’s usually married to the feeling of not trusting life either. And it would mean that you are more attached to what’s going on externally.

So this is a kind of a repairing of a relationship with yourself. And that comes through doing the inner work, however you decide to do it. There’s not one right way, whether you choose therapy, coaching, EFT, whatever you choose to do.

It’s a coming home to yourself because once you’ve reconnected to yourself, you trust yourself because you know yourself. And what’s the one thing when we’re kids and our parents say, don’t talk to strangers, don’t trust strangers. And so if you’re a stranger to yourself because no one’s ever taught you how to go into yourself, then you’re also not going to trust or even know what that inner wisdom is.

And I think we’re talking about true trust because so often I know people say, oh, I trust myself. I love myself. I believe in myself.

But they’re using it as affirmations, but not deep down inside. They’re not trusting. So how do you change that?

I think that’s when we moved from trust to faith.

So it’s like the difference between believing and knowing. Trust and belief kind of sit here. It’s an effort.

You have to kind of do some work to get into the trust, to get into the believing. So it’s not become you yet. But when trusting drops into faith and believing drops into knowing, it’s become you.

But the thing is to be able to have that richness in yourself, you have to be willing to get into the dirt of yourself and the darkness of yourself. And quite often that gold is hidden in the darkest, most scary situations or experiences of ourself. But as you allow yourself to be in that, for example, let’s say something really simple.

You’re in a nine to five. And what you really want is to be an entrepreneur and have your business. Right.

But all you’ve ever known or you’ve ever been conditioned with is security comes from your nine to five, which I think most of us can relate to. So your whole nervous system is set to believe that you need that structure around you to be safe. And so when you start to think about stepping into something that doesn’t have any of that, which is going to involve trusting yourself and stepping into the unknown, that can feel like somebody’s running after you in a dark alley.

That’s how real that fear can feel. But until you actually just go ahead and do it, you’re not going to earn the faith and the knowing on the other side. But that’s the only way to really get it as well.

And I think it’s a great time to point out that this happens in the beginning of your journey. And it’ll happen again, every level you go up when you’re just starting out, you’re going to think, oh, once I hit six figures, you know, this would be a lot better. No, your stakes are getting higher, the problem will always be there that on the untrustworthy will always come back up if you don’t do these practices.

And I think we are here to tell you that you are meant for more. But before you chase that more, it’s really coming back to yourself what you are let go of the past so that you have the capacity to receive more.

Awesome.

So Lydia and I are here to make you believe that a truly fulfilled life is out there. And you learn to trust you have that inner well of wisdom already inside of you and just listen to your heart. Okay, thank you for your wisdom today, Lydia.

In case someone need a picker upper, what is a quote that you can recommend them?

So as I said, I’m not much of a quotes person. There’s only one quote that I’ve ever remembered, I still need to it’s so short, I still need to like go back and check what it is. Okay, a rising tide lifts all boats.

I think this stuck with me by John F. Kennedy is that when you’re on this healing path, it can feel very isolating. And you will go through a season of shedding, losing friends, relationships, jobs, houses, a lot of stuff will start to fall away.

But just know that as you rise, everything and everyone around you will too.

Great reminder, can you say the quote again, a rising tide lifts all boats. Thank you so much for sharing that with us. Okay, so Lydia’s info will be linked below.

So connect with her and follow her. Thank you for being with us. Thank you.

Thank you for having me. And thank you for listening.

If you’ve been feeling you are not ready or been waiting for a sign to finally go for it—consider this episode your neon flashing billboard. 

Things talked about:

• What is the confidence gap
• Self reminders when feeling not ready
• Three power moves you can implement

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Hey there friends of LL, and welcome back to The Lucy Liu Show. I’m LL, your host and confidence coach, here to help you cultivate unshakable self-belief and make bold moves.

Today, we’re tackling a topic that holds so many women back:

The Confidence Gap—the disconnect between how ready you actually are and how ready you feel you are. 

Whether you’re considering launching a new business, applying for a promotion, or starting a podcast, whatever it is that you want, I want you to know this: you’re more ready than you think.

By the end of this episode, you’ll walk away with a fresh perspective on your readiness, real data that proves you’re already equipped, and actionable tips to close the confidence gap once and for all.

So let’s dive in!

You know that moment when you read a job description and you think, “I only meet 70% of the qualifications—I’m not ready”? Well, studies show that men will apply for jobs if they meet just 60% of the requirements, while most women feel they need to meet 100% before they even consider applying.

That, my friend, is the confidence gap in action.

But here’s the thing:
✅ Your qualifications, skills, and experience are real.
✅ Your self-doubt? That’s a story.
And it’s time to stop letting fiction dictate your future.

The confidence gap shows up beyond job applications, too.

• You might be waiting until you feel “expert enough” before pitching your ideas or creating content.

• You might hesitate to raise your rates or ask for what you’re worth or ask for a promotion because you feel you need just one more certification or accomplishment.

• You might be holding back from sharing your story or message until you feel fully polished.

But here’s the truth: Your competence isn’t the issue—your perception of it is.

Let me hit you with some tough love: You’re never going to feel 100% ready. And that’s okay. Because readiness isn’t a feeling—readiness is a decision.

Think about it:

• You didn’t feel fully ready the first time you drove a car, but you just got in the car and did it anyway.

• You didn’t feel totally prepared the first time you led a meeting, but you showed up and figured it out.

• You weren’t sure you were ready for some of the boldest moves you’ve made—but looking back, you were more capable than you gave yourself credit for.
• In hindsight, when people say Lucy you made some bold moves! I’m like what? I didn’t even think they were bold moves at the time, I just did it.

Your brain is wired for safety. It wants to protect you from risk, protect you from rejection, and protect you from discomfort. 

But growth? Growth lives in the discomfort zone and the feeling after growth is amazing!

Here’s what I want you to remember:

1. You’ve already proven yourself. Think of three times you did something before you felt fully ready. You didn’t just survive—you crushed it.

2. Perfection is not the prerequisite. No one expects you to be flawless. They expect you to be real. Start messy and let mastery follow. Everytime I make a grammar mistake or I start thinking “oh I should have said that instead” that’s exactly when I immediately shift my mindset and say I sure hope that mistake inspires someone out there to go for it.

3. You can not learn confidence from the sidelines. You build it by stepping into the arena. Action first, confidence second.

So, how do you close the confidence gap once and for all? Here are three power moves you can implement today:

 1. Embrace the “Good Enough” Rule:
Instead of aiming for perfect, aim for good enough to start. Research shows that people who take action before they feel fully ready build confidence faster.
 Ask yourself: “What if I’m already ready? What if I just go for it and figure it out along the way?”

 2. Borrow Belief:
If you struggle to see how capable you are, borrow the belief from people who already do. Whether it’s a friend, coach, or mentor—listen when they tell you, “You’ve got this.” Let their belief carry you until yours catches up. I always say this to my clients: “I believe you more than you believe it yourself!” It’s true, my belief for you to success is much more unwavering and that’s why I am confident to coach you.

 3. Do It Scared:
The fear won’t disappear before you take action—it disappears because you take action. Make the bold move despite the self-doubt. You’ll realize you were far more ready than you gave yourself credit for.

 Alright ,my friend, I hope you’re walking away with one powerful realization: You are more ready than you think. 

While I love courses to learn and grow myself. You actually don’t need more courses, more certifications, or years of experience. 

You need more action.

If this episode resonated with you, do me a favor: share it with one woman in your life who needs this reminder today. And if you haven’t already, hit subscribe so you never miss an episode that boosts your confidence and fuels your bold moves.

Until next week —keep showing up, even if you’re scared. You’ve got this. 

 P.S. If you’re ready to build unshakable confidence, grab the first 10 chapters of my book, Confident and epic, for free. 

This episode is for you if you are an ambitious entrepreneurial woman wanting to turn your BIG thinking into EXTRAORDINARY results, make sure you stay until the end so we can help you open some doors and explore what’s possible out there for you.

Guest Andrea Liebross is a Business Growth Coach & Life Integration Strategist | Keynote Speaker | Best-Selling Author of the book “She Thinks Big” | Host of the “She Thinks Big” Podcast

Things we talked about: 

• What “Thinking Big” mean?
• Why people think smaller than what’s capable?
• How to expand your vision to thinking big?
• Steps to take to thinking bigger?
• and so much more

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Hello, hello, beautiful souls. This episode is for you if you are an ambitious entrepreneurial woman wanting to turn your big thinking into extraordinary results. Make sure you stay until the end because we are going to help you open some doors and explore what’s possible out there for you.

For this special reason, I have my guest today, Andrea Libros. She is a business growth coach, life integration strategist, keynote speaker, bestselling author of the book, She Thinks Big, and host of the She Thinks Big podcast. Welcome to the show, Andrea.

Thanks for having me, Lucy. I’m happy to be here. So excited to have you.

I love your brand, She Thinks Big. You’re all about thinking big. So let’s start there.

What does thinking big actually mean to you?

Oh, it can mean so many things, but let’s just go with this particular meaning that I kind of really help my clients with. I really think that big thinking is the thinking that comes from future you, okay? So we have our past you, we’ve got the present you, but then there’s future you.

And future you is you a year from now, three years from now, five years from now, 10 years from now, who has created the life or the business is in a place where they’re loving it. I always say she’s smiling. Future you is smiling and she’s showing up for herself and for others in a way that feels powerful, that feels good, that feels kind of velvety, I like to say.

So if you go talk to that future you and you ask her, what does she think you should be doing today or how you should be showing up today? That’s the origin of big thinking, right? So you can’t, big thinking is hard to come from, to be born out of your day to day.

It’s also hard sometimes to think about what you really want for in the future. But if you can access and kind of become friends, I call it meet your future you, then that’s where the big thinking comes from.

I love that answer. I’m smiling right now. I’m loving my life.

Good, say that again.Look at that. 

I love my life. Life is good, right?

Yes, yes.

So it’s powerful stuff. And this morning I was working with someone and she’s starting to put this down on paper. She’s like, I can’t believe I’m actually writing this down.

I can’t believe I’m verbalizing this bigger thinking. And then sometimes I’ll say to someone, you need to listen back to this recording because your whole tone, your whole demeanor, your whole, all your facial expressions just changed when you started to think bigger.

Was there a moment in your life when you realized you were thinking too small?

Yes, there, yes. There has been many moments. And I think this is also something too that we can kind of ebb and flow and go in and out of just on a daily basis in a sense.

I think the biggest, my biggest aha moment was about, and that’s been about eight years ago where I was working in a corporate role and I was doing recruiting and hiring and training for a company that was predominantly female-based actually. And what I was doing was recruiting women to start their own branch of the business or kind of like their own franchise, even though technically, legally, it wasn’t franchises. They were franchises in a way.

And I was helping them get their business off the ground and what they would call training them, which I really realized in the end was coaching them. And the joke became if I had one more great idea that I shared with the leadership, corporate leadership team that didn’t come into play or wasn’t acted upon in what maybe we would call a timely manner, but then eventually two or three years later, they did put it into action. That just needed to happen one more time and then I was out, quit.

So that happened. I realized why I had so much, I would say kind of anger and disappointment and frustration in that period of my life is that I was being kept in this very small thinking container and I wasn’t allowed really or welcomed. It wasn’t, this bigger thinking wasn’t welcomed.

So that me leaving and me just walking away, that was when I said I’ve had enough of the small thinking and I needed to think bigger. And I see that happen over and over again to women. You know, we stay in situations or because we think it can’t be better somewhere else or we stay in a mode of thinking because it feels safe.

And what I love helping women do is to get out of that cycle and to really dream. And dreams to me, I don’t know if you ever heard the expression pipe dream, like that’s a pipe dream. Well, the origin of that pipe dream is when, I don’t know, way back in the day, there were of course probably some guys sitting around smoking opium out of pipes and things felt kind of euphoric.

And dreams should feel euphoric. They should feel joyful. And big thinking doesn’t have to be dreamy but there is a component of it that is there.

And then we need goals to actually make it happen and we could have a whole other podcast episode on that. But when I wasn’t allowed to really dream, that’s when I was done with that situation. So yeah.

Love it. Why do you believe most people settle for less than what they’re actually capable of?

I think it really comes down to the motivational triad inside our brains that we wanna be safe, we want things to be easy, we want things to be efficient, we want them to be pleasurable and staying in the known, even if it is not ideal, is safer or is easier than the unknown or things that are uncertain. So I say, in order to be a big thinker, there’s five tenets of big thinking and I use the word trust as an acronym. And the U in trust stands for embracing the unknown or uncertainty.

And that is really why we can stay thinking small and what needs to happen in order to think bigger. You’ve got to get, you don’t have to love it, but you have to realize that part of this is part of the reality of all of this is that you’re not gonna know or things are unknown. So I see a lot in my world when I’m working on a consult call, for example, and I’ve talked to whoever this is on the other line and do you think I can help you?

Yes. We’ve kind of mutually agreed on that. And at the end of the call, they say, you know what, here’s what’s gonna happen.

I’m gonna think about this and I’m gonna get back to you. And I’m all about thinking clearly, and that is totally fine if you would like to think about it, get back to me. I get it, I get it, I do that too.

But I ask for permission to put my coach hat on and I say, can I just, can I put my coach hat on for one minute? And they always say, sure. And I say, what exactly are you thinking about?

Like, what are you trying to like determine or what’s going on? No one really has a great answer to that. There’s no like, this is exactly what I’m thinking about kind of answer.

Sometimes they bring up money or talking to their spouse or they’re not someone that makes rash decisions. That’s just not how they do things. And really what’s going on there though, is that their brain is kind of searching for evidence to make this feel better, to get them out of this place where there’s some uncertainty and into certainty to be sure that whatever they’re gonna do next or if they start to work with me, for example, like that’s gonna be exactly what they need.

It’s gonna be perfect. There’s nothing in the mental Rolodex that’s gonna give them that evidence that they’re looking for. So that’s where another example of, if you’re someone that says, I’m gonna think about it and then you kind of stay in this sort of, I call it you’re interested but not committed zone, you’ve gotta get comfy with the unknown.

I love the word uncertainty. I actually did a whole podcast episode prior in life, uncertainty is actually the only true certainty we have. It is, it is.

So it totally changed my life after I started embracing and loving uncertainty because we see it as a fear. We see it as something blocking us. That’s a different life you’re living rather than you see excitement.

You see what’s possible for you out there after the uncertainty, right?

Because that’s the whole fun of it. 

And I always say you’re giving equal air time to the amazing pieces of the puzzle that could happen or the greatness that’s ahead of you. We don’t give it equal air time.

Our brain wants to go to the things that won’t work, possibly won’t work or the things that you’ll fail or it will feel yucky. We don’t give equal air time to the other side of the coin. And I also, I listened to a podcast of yours recently about everything is temporary.

Yeah, everything like, we don’t know what’s gonna happen this afternoon. I mean, we don’t, right? We don’t know.

So even though you may have your whole day planned out, you really don’t know exactly how it’s all gonna shake out. So we do have evidence though that you can get through uncertainty. So that’s the good news.

Like the good news is that you do know how to do unknown and uncertainty and recognizing that should give you that power to move forward.

I love that. So uncertainty is a big mindset block. I’ve seen enough of, I’m not ready enough.

I don’t have enough of blank, fill in the blank, right? Or when this happens, then it’ll be the perfect time. Yes, yes.

We’ve all been there. We’re human, it’s normal. What are some other common mindset blocks or limiting beliefs you see from keeping people from thinking big?

I think one of the, kind of ties to this, but one of the things that keeps us from thinking big is this whole notion that it should feel great. So I think all of us, again, that’s part of the motivational triad. You want things to feel good, but big thinkers know that there really isn’t a problem.

The only real problem is that you don’t want to experience this negative feeling. So thinking that it’s gonna feel good is another thing that gets in your way of thinking big. So if you can just understand that the R in trust, which is, these are the five things that all big thinkers do.

The R in trust, I say stands for a real problem. And the real problem isn’t really a problem. That’s kind of like the good news.

It’s the problem is that you just don’t want to experience that uncertainty. So this morning I was talking to a woman who she owns two big hair salons outside of Boston. And she wants to open a third and fourth location.

And she knows that in order to do that, she has to kind of grow some new leaders within her team. And she said to me, this just doesn’t, do you think I can do this? I’m so like, I’m so, I’m all in.

And then I have these little moments of doubt. And I said, yeah, and how does that doubt feel? She’s like, it doesn’t feel good at all.

I said, okay, so that’s really the only problem. You just have to know that you’re gonna have moments of doubt. Like you’re human and those are just feelings.

And they’re probably not gonna like go away a hundred percent but we have to learn how to do doubt. We have to learn how to do, like we need to learn how to do the uncertainty piece of the puzzle. And when we kind of phrased it, like framed it like that, she was like, oh, I can do that.

You know, I’ve done a lot of harder things in my life. So big thinkers need to know the real problem is really just a negative feeling. And they also need to embrace that uncertainty.

Okay, so how else do you help someone expand their vision when it comes to these naturally feeling fear, doubt, right? It doesn’t feel real. Nope, nope.

Cause it’s out there, right? Yeah, in this lifetime. Yes.

Like before I started this podcast, I didn’t even listen to podcasts. I didn’t even know about podcasts. Yeah.

But once it’s in your life, it’s so real. It is. I love podcasting, I love podcasters and I love bringing value to anyone that comes my way.

But in the beginning, of course, it’s not that easy, right?

It’s not that easy. And I think that one of the reasons it’s not easy is because we get stuck in what I call passive action. Okay, so like you were like, all right, maybe I should do a podcast.

Maybe I should do a podcast. And I’m gonna guess, even if you hadn’t listened to any podcasts, you probably were like, I’m gonna listen to a couple. I’m gonna do some Googling.

I’m gonna ask some people, right? And then I’m just gonna dive in. So what happened there is you shifted from the place of just taking, of being in passive action into massive action.

And that’s a hard transition because we’re really good at passive action. Passive action is like, you feel like you’re doing things, you’re doing all the things, but you don’t have any traction. So you are listening to a podcast.

Now clearly you and I think podcasts are great. So I’m all about listening to podcasts, but are you doing anything with the information that you’re consuming? Are you just being a consumer or are you taking massive action?

Reading book, passive action. Even asking 50 million people that you know, passive action. Googling, chat GPT, all that passive action.

So you’re doing things, but it’s not the massive action. I even see this when people start businesses. So they start a business and they say to me, I need a website.

Like I need the website to make me feel legit. And until I have that website up, I mean, I’m not gonna go after any business, right? So like the website building in and of itself in a sense is passive action because it’s like serving as a roadblock or a bottleneck for them doing the harder thing, which is marketing, right?

Or selling themselves or making an offer to help someone. So I think another piece of the puzzle is helping people move from this passive action into massive action. And that last T in trust, I say, stands for take massive action.

I cannot agree with you anymore. I’ve seen the same. And what I just tell my clients to do is just to go pay up for your LLC now to get that website.

And now it’s because you’re thinking you need that, which like you said, you don’t, but just do it anyway. So now you already have what you think you need. Then you go do take action towards the next step, right?

And for me, in our podcasting example, for me, I was just, I set a deadline to launch a podcast in 45 days. So that gives you, working backwards, that gives you momentum to actually do the real work. After you take passive action, the planning, the business plan, then you actually take action, the real action.

And you also just shift your mindset there with like, I can get this thing launched in 45 days, right? Because you could have easily have just said, oh, I can’t, it’s gonna take me four months, five months, right? So you have to kind of also play with all of the possibilities.

And I call those thought options. That’s another piece of the puzzle. And I think finding all the thought options on your own sometimes is really hard because you’re sort of stuck in your own, I say you’re stuck in your own peanut butter jar and you can’t read the label.

So you gotta have some label readers out there helping you see what’s possible.

Exactly, I love that, I love that. So we are all about thinking big and taking action, of course. So to actually implement something you’ve been thinking about, if a listener has something on the back burner, what is the first step you recommend them to take?

The first step is to secure support.

That is your very first step. You cannot go it alone. You can go it alone, but I’m gonna say that it’s gonna be painful and it’s probably going to take you a lot longer and you’re gonna be searching, searching, searching through your brain to try to find answers which aren’t gonna be readily available.

So I don’t know any big thinkers out there and we could be very stereotypical and talk about big thinkers like societal big thinkers or think about characters in movies, right? There’s always a wingman, right? So anyone who is thinking big has support.

And the other piece of this is your family, okay? So your family, yes, they could be, because I may say, who’s supporting you in this? Oh, my spouse, oh, my sister, oh, my mom or whatever.

They’re such great cheerleaders. So you totally need cheerleaders, but your family’s job is to really love you. Like that’s their job.

So let them do their job. And then you seek the support you need to do whatever you are setting out to do. If it’s losing weight, like you need to find outside support to help you reach that goal.

If it’s starting a business, you need to find outside support to help you reach that goal. If it’s learning how to play piano, you could watch a hundred YouTube videos or you could hire a piano teacher and you’d probably be way better off, right? So securing support is really important.

And it’s, your brain wants to say, oh, you should be able to figure this out on your own. But should you? Like, who says that?

That’s not necessarily a truth. So I say secure support.

I love that. I always say this. Yes, our family loves us.

Yes, your friends are amazing, but they might not have the same goals as you. Right, right. And they might not wanna be willing to tell you like the hard things.

Mm, exactly. I always say to my clients, you’re not gonna like this. I’m not here to make you like me because you don’t have to love me.

No, exactly.

But I’m still gonna say it and give it to you straight. Yes, a hundred percent, a hundred percent. So I think that securing support is like the ultimate key to all of this.

Okay, so I’m all about confidence because we need confidence in order to do things that we truly wanna dream about. What role do you think confidence play in thinking big?

Yep, here’s how I define confidence. I mean, we could define it like a thousand different ways, right? But one of the definitions that I like to use is that confidence is really your willingness to feel all the feelings.

So just in the last few minutes, we’ve talked about the feeling scared, feeling unsure of yourself, feeling like you don’t know what the next best step is, right? So feeling doubt. So you’ve gotta be willing.

If you’re willing to feel all those feelings, then that is confidence. You know, if you think about very stereotypical, like you’re gonna get on a stage and you’re gonna be scared once you look at the audience, but if you can be, if you’re okay with feeling a little unsure of yourself and a little scared when you get out there, then you’re gonna go out. So confidence is not something that you can buy off a shelf.

I don’t think confidence is something you’re born with. I think confidence is just you. It’s not even like experience in a sense.

It’s just the willingness to feel the whole array of feelings. And the good news is we all can do that, like as humans.

Totally, the willingness to embrace uncertainty. Yeah. The willingness to experience this journey, even if you know you might fail, because that’s the fun of it, right?

Yeah, yeah. And I think that would lead to what I really wanna discuss is the time is now, because people are like, this is uncertain time. Recession’s coming.

I think it’s especially important now for people to think big, because this is your opportunity, because when other people might be shrinking, the world needs you to show up even more. This is the time. It’s not the time to play it safe.

It’s not time to wait until the recession really comes or goes. It’s actually more important now. What do you think about that?

I always say the time to do something is right now. There’s no better time. And that, again, I think is just our brains trying to think that there is going to be some ideal time.

And this client this morning who owns the salons, so she just turned 40, she said, oh my gosh, I can’t believe, like I should have been doing this way earlier. I should have been doing this 10 years ago. And I said to her, so this is interesting.

So she’s saying I should have done it 10 years ago. She’s not saying I should do it 10 years from now. So this is kind of like a little play on the same topic, but just slightly different.

I said, okay, but why is right now, why is age 40 the perfect time for you to do this? And she came up with a million reasons, right? And I said, all right, so let’s go back.

Let’s make an argument for 30, age 30 was the perfect reason, time to do it. And we could come up with a million reasons. And then I did say, okay, let’s go and say 50 is the perfect, you need to wait.

50 is gonna be a better time. Could we come up with reasons? Oh yeah, we could come up with reasons.

So, but no set of reasons was better than the other when we looked at them all on the table. So she’s going for it right now. Yes, I love that.

Okay, so if the listener feels inspired from our conversation today, what is one last message you want them to take away?

I want them to realize that, I mean, it sounds super cliche, but anything really is possible. Anything is possible. It’s a matter of how much you are willing to expand your thinking, like push yourself beyond.

I say something I say, everything you always wanted is on the other side of uncomfortable. So if you’re willing to expand and almost like, I picture sometimes a balloon like blowing up with air. If you’re willing to put more air in there and stretch, then let’s do it.

Like, let’s go, I’m in. So it comes down to decision. It’s a decision, it’s so true.

It’s really all of life is just a series of decisions. You’ve already made so many decisions today, no matter what time it is at your house. It’s just a series of decisions.

Yes, so we don’t want you to just get inspired and feel inspired from listening to us. We want you to implement your great idea and think big and really to go for it. And we’re rooting for you.

Awesome, well, thank you for sharing your wisdom with us, Andrea. What is a favorite quote that you resort to when you need that extra push?

So since I’m in this entrepreneurial world, one of my favorite quotes is, being an entrepreneur is really a journey in personal development, disguised as an entrepreneurial adventure. So it’s supposed to be all adventurous and fun, but really what it is, it is fun and it is an adventure, but it’s really, you can only grow your business as much as you grow yourself. So being a business owner is really an exercise in you becoming a different version of yourself.

And I love that quote. I think it’s a great one to fall back on.

I love it, love it. This reminds me of another guest quote, which said that you transform the business of your life. That’s when you transform the life of your business.

Yeah, that’s perfect, love it, love it.

 So Andrea’s links will be linked in the show notes. Thank you again for being with us and all the blessings to everyone listening.

If you’ve hesitated to promote yourself and want to learn more self promotion skills, this episode is for you to get better at self promotion.

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Today, we’re tackling a topic that so many smart, talented, and successful women still struggle with: self-promotion.

You’ve built an impressive career, achieved incredible milestones, and yet, when it comes time to talk about your wins—whether it’s in a meeting, on LinkedIn, or even just in a casual conversation—you hesitate.

You’re not alone. In fact, this is one of the most common struggles I see in the women I coach. So, why is it still so hard for us to own our accomplishments with confidence?
Let’s dive in.

First, let me say this: if you struggle with self-promotion, it’s not because you’re not capable—it’s because you’ve been conditioned to self promote.

Think about it:

• Girls are often praised for being “polite” , “modest,” , “quiet” and “humble” while boys are encouraged to “be bold” “to step up” and to“go for it.”

• As we grow, we internalize these messages. So, while confidence in action comes naturally—leading projects, solving problems—confidence in visibility still feels foreign to many of you.

And then, there’s the fear of being judged.

Smart, successful women worry that promoting themselves too much will come across as:

• Arrogant

• Attention-seeking

• Or worse, inauthentic

But here’s the kicker:

Staying quiet doesn’t serve anyone—not you, not your business, not your followers and not the people you could be helping with your expertise.

Now, you might be thinking:
“Do I really need to talk about myself more? Won’t my work speak for itself?”

And I get it.
You want your results to do the talking.
But here’s the truth:
Results only speak if people know they exist.

You could be the best-kept secret in your industry—and that’s not a badge of honor. It’s a missed opportunity.

• When you shrink yourself, you limit your reach.

• When you downplay your wins, you make it harder for others to see your value.

• When you hesitate to share your story, you rob the world of the impact you’re meant to have.

And let’s talk dollars and cents for a second:
Research shows that women are less likely to negotiate for raises or promotions—and that directly affects their earning potential.

 So, how do we move past this?

 How do you promote yourself with confidence and authenticity?

Here are three simple but powerful strategies:

1. Reframe Self-Promotion as Service.
   When you share your wins, you’re not bragging—you’re serving.
   Think about the woman who needs to hear your story—the one who’s feeling stuck, wondering if she can make it.
   By promoting yourself, you give her proof that she can too.  Try this:

Next time you post about a recent win, instead of just stating the achievement, add a takeaway or a tip. 

For example:
Instead of: “Just landed my biggest client yet!”
Say: “Just landed my biggest client yet—by finally implementing this one simple strategy: asking for the sale directly. If you’ve been holding back, here’s your sign to go for it.”

Now, you’re promoting yourself and providing value.

2.  Practice Small, Consistent Visibility.
You don’t have to make grand gestures of self-promotion.
Instead, focus on small, consistent actions:

• Share a win in a team meeting.

• Post a quick reflection on LinkedIn.

• Speak up about your contributions during project updates.

Try this:
This week, challenge yourself to share one win—no matter how small.
It could be as simple as:
“I’m proud of the way I handled a tough conversation today.”

“I’m proud to have gained one follower on Instagram or 1 new subscriber on Youtube.
Visibility is a muscle—you have to exercise it regularly.

3.  Adopt a “Brag Buddy.”
You don’t have to do this alone.
Find a friend, colleague, or coach who will hold you accountable for sharing your wins.

• Text each other your wins
• Practice introducing yourselves with confidence.
• Cheer each other on.

If you feel you can use a little more help with self promotion, simply reach out to me and message me the words IamRemarkable, each month I hold a pitch free workshop to help you practice your self promotion skills. So message me your interest and I’ll let you in on my next workshop.
Try this:
Reach out to one person this week and say:
 “Hey, let’s be brag buddies. Let’s hold each other accountable for sharing our wins.”
You’ll be amazed at how much easier self-promotion feels when you have someone in your corner.

Here’s your reminder:
Self-promotion is not self-centered—it’s self-honoring and it inspire others to do great things.
It’s how you own your brilliance, expand your influence, and inspire others to do the same.

So, let me ask you:
What’s one win you’ll share this week?
Big or small—own it, celebrate it, and let it be seen.

If you found this episode helpful, share it with a friend who needs this reminder. And don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review—it helps more women like you discover this show.

Until next time, keep showing up boldly. You’ve got this.