I wanted to talk about rejection today because it is something we all 100% go through in life and unfortunately rejection hurts. It hurts because many say it is a form of pain. We’ve all experienced this pain in some form in life and it is essential that we know how to deal with it the right way. 

Rejection usually hurts because it contributes to feelings of inadequacy or unworthiness in ourselves. Rejection can leave us feeling unwanted and not good enough. Being repeatedly rejected can lead to feelings or belief that you’re truly inadequate. 

I want you to carefully think about what I just said again. I mentioned the word “feelings” several times. “Feeling” inadequacy and “feeling” unwanted and not good enough. 

The point I’m trying to make is that these are feelings, but really it is what you are thinking that will lead you to these feelings. Your thoughts after the rejection will determine how you feel about the rejection. You will take different actions according to the types of feelings you are feeling. So if you want to take positive actions by experiencing more positive emotions, you gotta make sure all the thoughts you are thinking are positive! 

For example, after getting a rejection your inner critic says, “I am so bad at this, I’m not good enough, that’s why I got rejected.”  When you think this thought, you will feel unworthy, you will feel self blaming, you will feel inadequate. 

Now let’s opposite that, after getting a rejection, say to yourself, “I am so brave for trying, I’m so glad to learn from this experience, even better things must be ahead, that’s why I got rejected.”  If these are your thoughts, guest what, your feelings at the time will be more likely to be of self love, self compassion and excitement for the next try and more importantly, you will be in a mind and space to be open to accept more opportunities. 

Rejection is more valuable than inaction. You learn nothing from inaction but by taking action and even if you fail, you’re failing forward and learning. Rejection is our greatest teacher ever! Without experiencing rejections in life, it would be impossible to expand or improve yourself. Rejection has the immense potential and power to make you a legend, be sure to use its power and live the epic life that you deserve. Until next week, keep shining your light.

Guest featured in this episode:

After losing her 17 y/o son, Nicole Bandes discovered her purpose: encourage others to make time for what matters most. In 2017, Nicole founded Virtual A Team, a virtual services agency helping overwhelmed coaches and consultants who want to define success by the wealth of their lives, not the size of their bank accounts. Nicole now walks the walk working less than 20 hours a week and also hosts the Coach’s Copilot: Your Online Business Manager podcast.

Things you will learn in this episode:

• Why is time so important?
• How to reduce your workload to less than 20 hours?
• 5 ways entrepreneurs can better manage their time?
• Why a Virtual Assistant May NOT be the best first hire and what to do instead
• How to delegate smarter
• How does an entrepreneur know if they can afford to outsource?
• And so much more…

Guest featured in this episode:

Christa graduated with Bachelors of Science in Nursing in 2000.  She was immediately drawn to Emergency Medicine and was a trauma nurse for 8 years.  She was able to experience working in this field in hospitals around the country including New York City and Norfolk, Virginia.

Christa earned her Masters Degree in Nursing from Texas State University in 2018 and is a board certified nurse practitioner in Family Practice Medicine.  She was the sole practitioner in a clinic specializing in weight loss, hormone balance, and aesthetics.  During this time she realized the tool box of what she could offer for health solutions was too limited for how she wanted to serve her patients. She wanted a better way to help women achieve lasting health results.  With that vision in mind, Christa began her journey with the School of Applied Functional Medicine, learning the root cause approach to personalized healthcare.

In August of 2020, Christa launched her virtual health practice, Elive Health, and is now able to provide help to women around the country via webcam.  As a functional-medicine expert, she specializes in clinically investigating underlying factors of fatigue, hormone balance, thyroid issues, digestive issues, and more.  Christa uses breakthrough diagnostic testing that’s rarely done in conventional settings to uncover the hidden causes of why women feel the way they feel.  

In her free time you can find Christa spending time with her husband of 17 years, Jon, their 3 boys, + her golden retriever, Tori.  She is now living in the San Antonio, TX area and loves being outdoors, skiing, traveling, hanging out poolside, + spending time with friends.

Things you will learn in this episode:

• What are the most common digestive issues, or gut health problems these days?
• When should someone go tested for food sensitivity?
• Surprise foods that cause digestive issues
• What could be the cause of fatigue?
• Why can’t people lose weight despite cutting calories?
• Other tips to improve gut health and solve digestive issues?
• And so much more…

Guest featured in this episode:

Liz Cortes has worked full-time with her husband at RebelFish Local marketing agency in San Diego for 7 years. They help local businesses get more traffic with local SEO and Google Ads. Agency life was great, but they wanted their client’s websites and landing pages to convert better so they upped their copywriting skills and became StoryBrand Guides. This poured fuel on the fire of their traffic strategies for clients and it helped them grow 30% last year.

Things you will learn in this episode:

• • What’s the difference between Google Ads and Local SEO?

  • Mistakes seen on Google Business Profiles?

  • Putting prices up on your website?

  • Online marketing strategies that are working really well right now?

  • and much more…

​So often people are shy of showing up for themselves and not fulfilling their potential because they don’t want to seem overconfident or even arrogant. I hope by listening to this episode that people will never be you because you know exactly the difference between confidence and arrogance so that you can go out there and show up with confidence. 

So let’s discuss the difference between the two. Confidence and arrogance are two different things. Confidence is a healthy thing that can be seen as a self-belief in your abilities. Arrogance, on the other hand, is an unhealthy attitude that stems from a feeling of superiority over others.

Confidence comes from the belief that you are good at something or that you have the skills to do it which makes it easier for you to try new things and take calculated risks to reach new goals. On the other hand, arrogance comes from believing that you are better than someone else or everyone else and not having any respect for others which means you don’t listen to their opinion or learn from them or respect them.

An arrogant person believes that their worthiness can only be measured in comparison to others and that they only have worth if they are “better than” others. A confident person recognizes that their worthiness is innate regardless of how good other people are.

Confidence is authentic and is built on experience, vulnerability, and knowing yourself. Arrogance on the other hand is pretended confidence as it is often fear-based and built on lack of self-awareness and self esteem. Arrogance often has an ill-intentioned attitude while true confidence shines from within out of good intention. 

With CONFIDENCE you can share what it is that you can offer and what kind of value and experience you can bring to the table. A Lot of people think when they pivot or change careers they are starting from scratch, but that’s not true, you never can leave behind what you have learned. So even if you are new to doing what you are doing, you can be an expert and feel free to show up with confidence. 

With ARROGANCE you are putting another person down in order to lift yourself up. So if you are not stepping on anyone on your way up, you are not being arrogant. If you are good at what you do and don’t talk smack about how you are so much better than others, you are not being over-confident, you are not arrogant so keep shining and stop worrying about what others will think of you!

Be that confident version of you, because confident people innately inspire confidence in others too. You are confident and assertive yet humble and that makes you a leader. You don’t need to point out others weaknesses to achieve your own success. You make others feel good about themselves and encourage them to perform at their best too. 

Confidence is a decision. By listening to this episode I know you have already made the decision or are now ready to make that true decision to show up with more confidence. I’m here to remind you that you are able to put yourself out there and go for new opportunities because you believe in your skills and talents. You absolutely believe in your abilities to complete a task or achieve a goal. Even if you are not there yet, you will consistently do new, challenging, and difficult things until you can do them well and get there. You are great at what you do and let your actions speak for themselves. Bet on yourself! You are worthy and you deserve all the blessings ahead. Keep shining dear and if you feel inspired by anything I said today, please let me know. Cheers to your up-rise.